It seems like a good idea: let’s include everyone in everything and make everybody feel safe and accepted and good about themselves. But, then it becomes something else, empowering to some and damning to others. One of the great tenets of our Constitution and the USA, in general, is our Freedom of Speech. The free flow of words and ideas has allowed our country to flourish. People need to feel unafraid to speak their minds, even if they think it could be a touchy subject, or offend some. It seems to be forgotten that with the Freedom of Speech also comes the Freedom to Offend and Freedom to Be Offended. Just because someone has offended you with what they have to say doesn’t mean they should stop saying it, or pretend they no longer believe it. Yes, you were offended, you can let that be known, and move on. When we start telling people they can’t say certain things or think a certain way, and start ostracizing those who do, we create a hostile environment where people are afraid to speak their minds.
It’s been said “I may not agree with what you have to say, but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it” and that still holds true. I may not agree with you, and I may be offended by what you believe, but I absolutely believe you should be allowed to say and think that way (As long as you are not encouraging violence). There’s no reason for you to cease to exist or have to feel ashamed and live in solitude. Beyond the real threat of censorship destroying what our country is and what made it great, it’s also dangerous to allow the majority opinion to silence and punish the dissenting opinion. Just because you are the majority now, does not mean you may not find yourself in a situation where you are the minority. And when you are the minority, you are going to want a system where everyone is treated equally regardless of their beliefs and words they use and things they say. In some weird way I’m proud that I live in a country where people say crazy shit all the time. That’s amazing that someone can feel secure enough to speak their mind in public without the fear of imprisonment or execution. Though the government might not do that to us, the masses could be taking their place. Increasingly there is a mob mentality where people are self-righteously justifying how they feel and persecuting all those who think otherwise. They become the legislator, the police officer, the judge, the jury and the executioner, all in one. They push their way until everyone agrees to think the same way (I say “agree” because there is no way to make people think a different way, it would only be for show). That sounds grand when it’s a belief that you truly believe in and think should be apparent to anyone else that it is also “right”. But, unfortunately, again, you might find yourself in the situation where what everyone thinks is “right” you truly and fervently believe, (as much as you believe in something now) that it is wrong. Do you want there to be the precedent of eradicating thoughts or beliefs?
We must protect the rights of those we disagree with, because one day, those we disagree with, could be the ones making these decisions, the ones in power, in the majority, etc. It’s hard to comprehend that as strongly as we believe (and in some cases know) that something is “right” there are people who just as strongly believe or know the opposite to be true. When you look at it that way, you realize the futility in trying to convince someone otherwise. You don’t have to raise your voice and be outraged and frustrated over how someone can think that way or disagree with you, because you know they’re thinking the same about you. It cancels each other out.
One last thing, it’s totally cool with being accepting of who you are and loving yourself, that’s great. Just don’t ever expect that others will feel the same way. No one needs to give you permission to be the person you are, just do it. You don’t need their validation. So, they think you’re ugly, so they think you’re weird, who cares? You probably wouldn’t like them personally, anyway. You can choose to live pretty much any way you want, and everyone else can choose to either be okay with it, or not. In either case, it shouldn’t affect any other person’s life and should never be their say what you can or cannot do.